Wednesday, 5 December 2007

Bored to Tears...

I stumbled across a strange little website (it's probably massive, actually) called Jyte this morning whilst attempting some research. (I honestly wasn't trying to find the website Matt and I encountered once where a white woman was taken by two black men from both ends. That research was over and done with long ago...) Jyte appears to be a type of polling/claim forum where one uploads a statement and waits for visitors to agree (thumbs up) or disagree (thumbs down). This particular statement claimed that people who say they are bored are, in themselves, boring. I have heard this many a time from the ex who fires it at daughters #1 and 2 when they want him to entertain them and he wants to watch the rugby; thus I have always deemed it to be of the ex's making.

However, to find that somebody else thinks this, too, was a bit disconcerting. You see, I have a terribly low boredom threshold at times. And the trouble is, when I am bored, I become either very constructive, or very destructive, depending on my mood. Many a time, the ex would return from one of his boozy nights out and I would have mooched around the villa, wondering what to do with myself (no TV, only pirate videos, and dark at 7pm) and suddenly the paint on the walls in the living room had changed colour (constructive); the furniture had altered position to become more symmetrical with the marble pattern on the floor (constructive); or his underpants and socks had been cleared out (destructive).

I am actually able to tell when my boredom limits are about to be reached. I become a bit restless, narky and then suddenly, as if a switch has been flicked on, I am completely disinterested from thereonin. This happened to me quite vividly whilst studying for an accountancy A level at night school, and continued whilst studying for the professional Taxation exams through a former employer, years ago. I have claimed ever since that accountants must have had either a charisma bypass or a frontal labotomy in order to do their job.

Charles Parsnip asked me one night if I felt that my life was fulfilling, and I replied that, yes, I found it very full and very exciting. And that was sort of true. But it's the little things in life which I can find unutterably dull, such as explaining for the nth time to daughter #2 who has interrupted a film 200 times in the first five minutes wanting to know the ending that I have never seen the film either, So. I. Just. Don't. Know. Please. Shut. Up. (She is now on her guard that when I tell her to be quiet through gritted teeth, the masking tape is about to come out. And she really doesn't want that...)

When these things happen, the switch flicks instantly. And I am then officially bored.

I think a lot of people without a technological bent would find my job very boring - indeed, my work colleagues have now labelled me the Geeky Freak which came about because I knew how to create é by pressing ALT 0233. And I was only trying to help one of them write Michael Boublé for her Secret Santa list. Ingrates...So, whenever a techie question comes up, there's a piping chorus of Ask The Boring Geek! Thankfully, I am pretty quick with the acerbic come-backs so they are left in no doubt that, boring my job may be, when it comes to put-downs, I leave my geekery far behind!

I do, however, find many minor aspects of my day deadly boring. Such as when my work colleagues analyse the latest goings-on in a dreadful soap opera called Hollyoaks, or when they are discussing which Z-list celebrity has got herself knocked up with another equally untalented Z-list celebrity. I also found, yesterday, talk of how the Secret Santa presents would not be recognised by putting the present in a bag, within a bag, in a black bin liner, with printed labels (so nobody could recognise anyone's handwriting), left in the stock room and the boss alerted by secure transmitter via Interpol deadly dull...At the time, I was attempting to run some link checks on our website in the hope of finding massive errors so we could leave these particular web developers and take our business elsewhere. Listening to the cackling, giggling, whining and Carol singing left me so distracted and drained my IQ so rapidly that I stalked out of the office for an illegal cigarette. I say illegal because I had only put one out about 15 minutes previous and a second in that space of time was taking the p*ss somewhat. Well, the boss wasn't in...

Other things which bore me are receiving credit card bills, final demands, and cold calls from salesmen desperate for me to change my internet service provider. Because they bore me so much, I decide to have a bit of fun with the latter and feign interest, let them run right through their spiel, making encouraging Ooh-ing noises to them and then inform them right at the end that I don't possess a PC. This really angers them and some, you can tell, if they were in front of me at that point, would probably give me a couple of black eyes. Ah well, such is life.

Conversations I have endured which have made my eyes glaze over have generally happened on internet dates and which I have shared with you on many an occasion. However, my mother can talk a glass eye to sleep, too, when she gets on to her favourite topic of What Are We Having For Dinner? This starts just before breakfast, continues through the muesli and toast, onto elevenses and right up to lunch when the decision is finally made, the meat brought out from the freezer and left to defrost on the work top. The debate then focusses on which vegetables can accompany aforesaid meat, what time dinner will be served, and will it be ready on time. Let me just put you in the picture here: this little scenario happens every day. And it happens even more when she has decided that I need some company so she is stopping with me for a few days. I generally feel the life blood slipping away from me and inform her that I will be eating Ryvita as I am on a diet and she can therefore help herself to whatever is in the house.

So, does my low boredom threshold make me a boring person? I'd like to think not and consider that I simply find the mundane doesn't fire off my synapses like it does for others.

Well, if I am being honest with you, outlining all these dull, ghastly things has now bored me. So, I shall head off and go and do something less boring instead. Like rearrange my collection of empty cat food cans or watch some paint dry. Don't let yourself get bored and become destructive like I do. Telephone a car showroom and ask for the specs on all the sports cars, arrange lots of test drives and then reveal that you are only 16 and haven't yet passed your driving test. It'll set you up for the day...


Matt Chingduvé said...

I read about half, Agnes. I got bored. Sorry.

Matt Chingduvé said...

P.S. I had totally forgotten about that website we looked at! What was the web addy for that again? I'm interested, er, purely for... research and nostalgia purposes.

I also am a liar.

Agnes Mildew said...

Matt: Yes, I trailed off myself and left rivulets of drool on the keyboard as I was typing it. I was so bored, I wanted to go to work. The website URL...I can't divulge that information to you. If I did, I would have to kill you to stop you blabbing...

Matt Chingduvé said...

Oh, go on! I'll give you a secret URL for my Budgie Cam!

MedStudentWife said...

To keep occupied,sometimes,when I am bored.. I'll read the telephone book

Honestly - you sound so much like me :)

Mark Dykeman said...

Ah, but your posts are never boring, Agnes. Cheers!

wisemanthree said...

"What shall we do tonight?"

"I dunno..."

"Well is (insert activity) an option?"

"Nah, I'm kinda tired"

"Oh ok, let's stay in then"



"I wanna go out"

"Ok.... where do you wanna go?"

"I dunno..."

"Want to see a film at the cinema?"

"There's nothing on really"

"Wanna go for a drink?"

"Nah, we'd only have to drink cokes because both of us are driving"

"O...k... well where do you wanna go? Which town?!"

"I dunno...."

I think this sums things up nicely.

Linda and her Surroundings said...

I get bored easily. I used to think it was because I was possibly boring (having read that old saying) but one day I realised that it was the people around me who were boring. Boring as shit and thus bored me totally.

I never get bored with my own company as I have learnt how to amuse myself quite easily.

é (hey thanks, it works)

Agnes Mildew said...

Medstudentwife: Mmm. I have been known to do that, too. I think I wanted it as a party piece after having seen Rain Man.

Mark: I can always rely on you to give me the ego boost I need for the day - thanks!

Wisemanthree: You've obviously been talking to a bird.

Linda: Yes. I think I shall veer towards your opinion. 'I'm alright Jack'!

Keli said...

Your low threshold does not make you boring. If it did, then most of us non-stupers would fall into that category. Maybe it's patience you lack with idiot conversationalists, the redundant and the mundane. It's hard to put up with the type of people who take forty minutes to describe a doorknob (ie, certain relations of mine). I think I'll go phone the BMW showroom...

Agnes Mildew said...

Keli: Yes, in my most supercilious moments, I agree that it is purely the fault of others why I bore so easily. I mean, if they won't entertain me, what is a girl to do?